This one isn’t complicated or lengthy. On this Valentine’s Day (and every day of the year) I urge you to follow your heart and do what you love with people you love.
Of course that means you have to make space for all that good stuff: your brilliant ideas, your playful side, the things that light you up.
A few weeks ago I laid out an excellent method for planning your year. And the process we discussed applies to EVERYTHING you plan – your month, your week, your day.
by Steve on January 13th, 2014
With the dawn of the New Year I’ve been taking a good look at my coaching business: What’s it all about? Why am I in it?
I’m remembering and solidifying why it can be so challenging to live a creative life. And I’m articulating in new ways what I’ve known all along: This work, the work I do with coaching clients (and in this e-blast dialogue with you) is all about helping artists produce more work.
The MYTH of the ARTIST is that we don’t exist – or that we show up in brilliance and perfection as if by magic. Like that tree in the forest, if no one is there to witness, it’s assumed that nothing happened. The culture at large doesn’t know what it takes ... Read more
by Steve on December 13th, 2013
A funny thing happened on the way to the New Year.
I was having a conversation with a friend and feeling the pressure to DO MORE – creatively and personally. Since the year was ending, I wanted to get all the things accomplished I’d previously envisioned for 2013. There are scripts to complete, gifts to give, articles to write, headshots to print, websites to revise and a large group of people I want to have coffee with.
Looking at it objectively, it makes sense. So often we are (culturally) defined by endings: the end of an era, a school year, a job. In the face of death, the ultimate ending, people put forth a list of what they want to do before they go – their “bucket ... Read more
by Steve on November 20th, 2013
Here’s the thing about thank you notes, they’re fun to send. Not only do they serve the simple purpose of spreading appreciation, they make me feel good, too.
We live in a cynical age. Tragedies are everywhere. The “news” is never good. Making fun of people is routine.
But I believe miracles are everywhere, too: Miracles of kindness.
I see them every day. People are out there helping people – in person and virtually. I see people creating work that speaks to the human spirit, doing service for one another, teaching, supporting, loving one another. Cheering each other on.
That’s what life’s about, as far as I’m concerned.
I want to thank you for joining me in that vision of making the world a better place with your creative talents.
It’s ... Read more
by Steve on October 25th, 2013
I’ve been traveling a bit this year and have found myself in places I’ve never been before. It can be exciting and disorienting. Usually I like to have a map or a plan or a friend by my side who knows the territory. And, at the same time, I know I’m fully capable of figuring out how to navigate. I’ve never gotten irrevocably lost – I’ve always found my way back to where I started. I’ve always found my way back home. Chances are you have too.
Given that, it makes sense to lean into the adventure of the moving down a new road. It makes sense to envision the journey as fun rather than stressful. That perspective allows me the opportunity to dance down the road rather ... Read more
by Steve on September 30th, 2013
Celebration is hard work.
Seriously. There’s no doubt we’re part of a workaholic, focused, driven society. We artists are just as prone to the grind of non-stop, hyper-busy, all or nothing energy that pervades the life of corporate workers.
I’m no exception. I’m coming off of a busy year of TV writing. I took a vacation almost right away (an improvement over last year). And I’m back at it – working on my own stuff with an energy and abandon that I enjoy. I’m being productive. I’m having fun. And I’m keeping my eyes open for chances to take breaks, replenish and celebrate. (I think there’s a nap coming up right after I finish writing this.)
In a world of snark and negative reviews, I’m big on gratitude ... Read more
by Steve on August 31st, 2013
You’re walking down the street and there’s a woman sitting on the ground. You don’t know her. Her clothing is old and worn. She’s homeless. She asks you for a job. Can you recommend her for something? What do you say to her?
You’re walking down the street and there’s your best friend sitting at a bus stop. She looks amazing. Healthy and well dressed. She asks you for a job. You’re not in a position to hire but you probably can recommend her to someone. What do you say to her?
You’re connected to someone through a friend of a friend. You’ve never met this person, but you’ve talked to her on the phone. She seems nice, but you don’t know anything about her beyond the ... Read more
by Steve on July 31st, 2013
I was half-way though writing on a different topic for this month when this one emerged, full blown from my consciousness. I should clarify: I always write these articles based on what I need to hear (same for my tweets). I’m glad they resonate for others, but they’re always for me. I look inside to discover what needs to be spoken to. And I lean into that.
There are a ton of ways to define who we are: by our possessions (“I’m a home owner”), by our relationships (“I’m a mom”), by our status (“I’m a college graduate.”) Anyone can define themselves by their accomplishments. In the entertainment industry, people define themselves by the reviews they get. Or the awards they win. I’ve done all these ... Read more
by Steve on June 25th, 2013
When I got into college (my first choice school) I was super excited. About six months into my studies, the novelty had worn off. I was unimpressed and restless, wondering and worrying about the next challenge – the next big thing. I was already beyond appreciating where I was and what I had the opportunity to do. I was consumed with what wasn’t working rather than engaged in what was working well.
You’ve likely seen the phenomenon – in your life, in the lives of your friends and your creative collaborators. Joy turns to cynicism. Enthusiasm turns to negativity. Sharing one’s creative gift from a place of purity and service turns to narcissism and self involvement.
I think it’s the disease of our time – a major ... Read more